Conversation

A good conversation is something I truly enjoy!  The ability to converse must be one of the greatest gifts a human possesses!  Sadly it all too often goes to waste because few people really seem to be able to converse despite what they may think.  Daily conversations generally fall into one of four categories and seldom are of one category only.  Subjective, objective, about other people or about one's self are often times the four categories conversations are said to fall into.

Sadly, it seems that the latter two conversations are the type or category that most people seem inclined to engage in.  All too often conversations about other people turn into gossip, something that I oppose greatly and will usually try to turn the conversion when it come to gossip.  Either that or turn my attention away losing interest in the conversation entirely!

When it comes to a conversation that becomes totally one-sided and someone begins talking incessantly about themselves it is easy to lose interest in the conversation as well.  Now a conversation about one's self can be satisfying when coming to know someone can be refreshing and informative, most welcome!  The same can generally said of someone that you have not seen in awhile and want to catch up, or about a particular event or time during the person's life.  When it is obvious the conversation has turned out to be solely conversation in order to get attention, I am turned off and tune out!

Now conversations of the former categories are of the most substance and entertainment.  Maybe the satisfaction comes about through the intelligence required by one of a subject and the ability to convey the subject adequately!  Personally, I enjoy and welcome some one who can converse and can help me to understand or come to understand an idea, or convince me of a view they hold.

So many people turn to senseless banter or gossip to try and hold a conversation and all too often about things that only themselves can relate to leaving other participants of the conversation lost and uninterested, myself included.  Largely and often it seems that people are fearful of entering into a meaning conversation perhaps due to a lack of knowledge of the subject, or fear of their lack of knowledge of the language.  In either case, it is probably best for the participant to shut up to listen and learn rather than show their stupidity!

There is the more intimate conversations that people seem to have a problem with as well!  The inability to have personal and intimate conversations seems largely to be a problem as well.   Largely it seems that this is because people are afraid to open up and reveal themselves, and their true feelings.  For fear of rejection or admitting something to someone that would cause them to expose themselves to others.  Yet all the while, opening up and daring to 'expose' themselves might make the relationship all that much stronger and enduring.  When we keep things bottled up inside us we end up doing harm no only to ourselves but potentially to others as well.

Conversation is key to healthy relationships of all kinds but it is important to know the purpose of the conversation and its purpose.