Why do we have kids?

Why do we have kids?

Yes, we probably all know the original reason were meant to have kids, procreate and populate the world.  We must have gotten the message pretty good with a world population of 6,697,254,041 (according to the World Bank and I have to ask WTF does the World Bank have to do with it?  That is another post though) we got the message pretty well and took it literally.  Maybe ‘someone’ should have told us to stop?  There are approximately 490,000 babies born per day around the world.  And we just keep populating!

This isn’t about the population of the world though, this is about kids and families.  Around the world there are millions of kids who are members of single parent families.  Now this does not mean they were born immaturely or anything, it often times mean the parents got a divorce.  Of maybe they were born out of wedlock, or sometimes because one of the parents is deceased.  Whatever the reason, we still have these millions of kids living in a ‘single’ parent household.  Blessings be with these parents or the kids could fall into another classification.

Often times these kids and single parents have a tougher time of it due to all the dynamics of raising a family, especially in this day and time!  We are all aware of the problems encountered by single parents, log hours, multiple jobs, trying to be the mom and dad, the list goes on and on.  Really though who suffers the most?   It is the kids that have to suffer from a single parent family.  Not that single parent families aren’t adequate or more than adequate, hell in some cases they are better than the ‘original’ two parent family.  No wonder how wonderful the parent is, the kids still suffer in one way or another.

So why do we continue to have kids, especially at the rate we do?  It is not for the original reason to populate the world, or to help take care of the family or the farm!  Maybe we give in to the propaganda that says we should have so many kids.  Personally I am still looking for the half a kid my government says I should have!  Does anyone have half a kid?

Wait before I go any further, let me say for the record I LOVE kids, in case anyone is wondering.  If I had my way, I would have had a dozen kids!  I just wasn’t in my cards though to have a dozen kids.

So why do we keep having kids?  It seems to me that we continue to have kids for one of several reasons; 1) we are still trying to populate the world (wait didn’t you get the memo?  We are over capacity now!, 2) we still believe in the family unit (you might want to listen to the song “Cat’s in the Cradle”), 3) we don’t know where kids come from (no wonder we have an education problem or our parents failed to communicate with us), 4) we have an ego problem and have an intense need to see a ‘mini-me’, 5) we believe what we are told and strive for the 2.5 kids (wake the hell up), 6) we need a purpose in life! , 7) we truly love kids and want to have a good life with them.

Twice in the last two weeks I have received inquiries for me to donate my sperm because some ‘chick’ wanted to have a baby in a not so normal way!  No commitments, no family responsibilities.  Wait a minute what is wrong with this picture other than the fact that I am old?

So a couple starts out with the right idea, get married, have kids and raise them the right way.  Somewhere along the way though something goes wrong and one of the parents (sometimes both) the parents split and breakup the family.  Now a single parent family is born.

Things really start going south now in all too many ways.  Two things the parents should realize right away lest you do even more harm; 1) kids are not a possession, 2) kids are not ammunition for your personal use.  Just because they make look like you, have your last name or came from your egg or sperm you do not own them.  Pure and simple, get over it we do not own people, whoever they are!  Oh yeah one other thing, kids are not there for your amusement or spy!

It is sickening when ex-partners (yeah be it spouses, domestic partners, or otherwise) turn to the kids to exert their control and power over their ex.  Not only do the ex’s make the other suffer they also suffer the children at the same time.  Simple things like taking charge of that it’s a life.  Just to show there might buy doing things like changing their hair color, their clothing, etc.

Don’t try a power trip or control, to get what you want instead use some common sense and think about someone other than yourself in your grab for control and power. Think about the people you are hurting beyond just your ex. Think about the actions were taking and now for reaching they may be.  The effect may be adverse and leave permanent scars.