Wham Bam Thank You Ma'am

Recently a friend asked me what sex meant to me and I thought about it for a bit and the title of this subject came to mind.  Once I may have had that attitude but no more, though I know many people who do.  There is a big difference between sex and making love, unfortunately many people equate the physical act of sex to the emotion of love and showing it, sharing it with another.


So many things going on with the body and mind at once!  The sensations, the joy, the happiness, the release of endorphins in the brain.  We 'all' want it and we want it now!  Ah yes, the immediate satisfaction that is derived by 'getting our jollies.'  Really though, what are you wanting quality or quantity?  How many times and how much time are we willing to expend, rather than spending the same on quality?  For a large part though, it seems that quality is elusive with everyone largely looking out for themselves and their own satisfaction.  Point One, why people so often take quality over quantity?  There are too many selfish people?  Maybe they are in too big of a hurry to 'return' what they 'receive?'

Take your time to learn and explore.  What the hell!  Why did we spend so many hours in 'sex education' and so few people know much more than how babies are made, if that!  Sometimes is seems that people forget even that! Open your minds and hearts a little before you open your legs or take the plunge and get to know the person you want to get in the sack, or think you do. I f getting to know yourself and your partner what is all the uproar about tantric sex?

Is it that instant gratification is so important?  Do we need it write now and then maybe have some regrets later, or just push it out of our minds?  Come on think before you act.  If you need it right now and don't have a partner, pull out your toys or pull it with you hand!  Think quality, not quantity!

You know as wonderful as sex is, there can be a downsize to it.  Call them consequences or whatever but it can literally screw you sometimes!  So many times I have heard from both sexes, 'man, if I can only get them in bed with me, then they will love me.'  This comes from guys and girls!

Hello, wake the hell up and smell the coffee, I have never heard of anyone that good and if there is, I want to meet them!  Hell maybe they can answer some questions or give me some tips. Of course making you love them is only thing.  People get PREGNANT from sex or did you skip class that day? Thia goes both ways too!  Women trying to 'catch' the guy with a baby.  Or guys thinking that if they get a girl pregnant no one else will want her.  WTF, people are willing to screw up the lives of not only two people but even worse a third, innocent life?  All for their stupidity?  My thought is they should never have sex again!  I won't even mention the fiscal ills!

Quality not quantity!  People are just stupid about sex!  Years ago, I was on a ship and we made a port-a-call.  For 'weeks' before we hit shore we were told to 'be careful.'  There were diseases that scared the hell out of penicillin, in fact there was no cure for some of them.  My ship-mate was getting out in six weeks and going home - to his wife and kids.   He was with not only one, but two 'working' girls that night!  How the hell could he being so close to going home, risking taking something home to his 'innocent' wife?  And risk his life?  Sorry, I have yet to meet anyone that was worth all that!  These days, if you are found out to have an STD, AIDS, the hospital and health department, they want a list.  The list of being everyone you ever had sex with.  Then 'they' want you to make contact and 'tell on yourself.'  Now for me, it would be tough to talk to some of the people (women) in my past, little alone some I had 'been' with to tell them, I was infected.  Hell, with some of them it might mean facing their parents too!

Ah yes, the time I did a 'rape' investigation where this guy met a woman in a bar and they ended up on the hood of his car.  (exhibitionism?)  Well the 'girl' called foul and said it was rape, or at least she told the cops and her husband.  Hello, the 'suspect' went to jail, had to call his parents (his mom) to tell them he was arrested for rape!  Something I am sure we all want to tell our mothers.

Somehow it didn't all add up so an investigation was launched and all hell broke loose.  The woman who was supposedly rape confessed, it was all bs.  Just a story she fabricated to tell her husband, so she wouldn't have to explain why she was so late from girl's night out! Yes, she was screwed and divorced too!

All the quantity she can get!  While in California, I had the opportunity of meeting a woman who was recently divorced.  During the course of our first 'date' she wanted to take me home and add another notch to her head board.  During the course of conversation I learned that her goal was to 'have' as many men as she could to make up for all the years of 'bad sex' while she was married!  Now why the hell would someone stay married if sex was so important and so bad?  Well, I knew two things; she wasn't getting me in bed that night or ever and two she was never going to get enough to forget the bad!  

The horror stories are countless, with many more and many I don't know!   I could share but would it really matter - sex has a tendency of making people stupid.  So what do you want?  Quality or quantity?  As for me, I am holding out for quality and the real deal.